Triangulation in Polyamorous Relationships
Whether your relationship is monogamous, polyamorous, or any other configuration, conflict is inevitable. And that’s ok!
Big "T" and Little "t" Trauma
“When we talk about trauma, we are often referencing momentous events. Wars, assaults, and horrifying accidents are examples of what we might call Big "T" trauma.”
Why Therapy Is So Damn Expensive
“Recently a client and I were discussing their frustrations with the cost of another mental health provider. As we talked it became clear that the client was interpreting the provider’s fee as a sign…”
Why Therapist-Client Fit Matters
“There are many factors that impact how helpful therapy will be to you. It may have to do with the specific issue bringing you, the particular techniques…”
Recognizing a Scarcity Mindset
“Many of the people I see come from impoverished backgrounds. They may have worked their way into the middle or upper social classes, yet they often continue to struggle with a scarcity mindset…”
Moving Past the Myth of Self Control
“No matter what is bringing someone in to see me, we will eventually get to a point where they disparage themselves for not having “enough self control” or being “too lazy”…”
Caring for Yourself Outside of Therapy
“In therapy we spend time talking about thoughts and feelings, understanding their origins and how to move past pain to healing and self-acceptance…”
Why We Talk About Parents in Therapy
“Periodically, I’ll be mid-session with a client. We’ll be talking about something seemingly unrelated to their parents - a job, a romantic partner, finances…”
10 Signs of Emotional Abuse
“Within healthy and unhealthy relationships, people may become angry. They may make major mistakes. They may yell and say things they later regret. They may even suddenly end a relationship despite the other not being ready to let go…”
Borderline Personality Disorder and Trauma
“One way of thinking of our personalities is that we tend to have certain patterns of how we think, feel, and behave. For example, if you value your independence, then you are likely to…”