Understanding the Impact of Trauma on Drinking Alcohol and Smoking Weed
Experiencing a traumatic event is one of the main reasons people overuse alcohol or weed. Sometime people are unsure if their experiences count as traumatic, but a trauma is basically an intense, overwhelming emotional event…
Radical Acceptance
So many people who walk in my door are struggling to change reality. They are obsessively looking for ways to control the uncontrollable. They are trying to turn themselves into people who are invulnerable to hurt, perhaps…
Triangulation in Polyamorous Relationships
Whether your relationship is monogamous, polyamorous, or any other configuration, conflict is inevitable. And that’s ok!
Big "T" and Little "t" Trauma
“When we talk about trauma, we are often referencing momentous events. Wars, assaults, and horrifying accidents are examples of what we might call Big "T" trauma.”
Why Therapy Is So Damn Expensive
“Recently a client and I were discussing their frustrations with the cost of another mental health provider. As we talked it became clear that the client was interpreting the provider’s fee as a sign…”
Why Therapist-Client Fit Matters
“There are many factors that impact how helpful therapy will be to you. It may have to do with the specific issue bringing you, the particular techniques…”
Recognizing a Scarcity Mindset
“Many of the people I see come from impoverished backgrounds. They may have worked their way into the middle or upper social classes, yet they often continue to struggle with a scarcity mindset…”
Moving Past the Myth of Self Control
“No matter what is bringing someone in to see me, we will eventually get to a point where they disparage themselves for not having “enough self control” or being “too lazy”…”
Caring for Yourself Outside of Therapy
“In therapy we spend time talking about thoughts and feelings, understanding their origins and how to move past pain to healing and self-acceptance…”
Why We Talk About Parents in Therapy
“Periodically, I’ll be mid-session with a client. We’ll be talking about something seemingly unrelated to their parents - a job, a romantic partner, finances…”